More about a Need to be Right

I wrote an article on my Sue's Soul Glances blog about A Need to be Right. I gave one example there. I have another one to give here.

Someone I know did something to make a family member very angry. It wasn't the intention of the first person, but it happened. A letter was written expressing the second person's dissatisfaction with the first person. It was a letter of being right.

The person writing the letter angrily stated that the perceptions of the first person were wrong, both as a child and as an adult. While on the other hand the writer's perceptions were right as a child and an adult. Then the comment was made that no further discussion of the topic would be discussed.

The first person sat back with a look of astonishment. This was a typical I am right, you are wrong approach to a situation. What recourse did the first person have? If the door hadn't been shut, the first person could have addressed the issue and argued the point, or let it go and consider the source. The latter was chosen even though the door had been slammed shut.

Many times we feel the need to argue the point. We are right. We know we are right. And you are going to know it too! The other person has the same feelings and so an argument ensues.

While reading the letter, the first person saw the ambiguities in the letter and saw it for what it was: a need to be right. Since the reader was on a different life path than the writer it was a lot easier to just dismiss the letter and move on without addressing the issue.

Can you do that: dismiss something and move on without addressing the issue? Wouldn't it save a lot of bickering and hurt feelings if you did? Think about it and let me know how you stand on the issue of A Need to be Right.

Til Next Time!

©2008, L. Sue Durkin

Perception on Weather Changes

Weather Changes

Weather was something that was talked about when there was nothing else to say. It has become a major topic of conversation in the past couple of years though. It has come to mean more than rain for crops or sunshine for outside activities. It has become an everyday concern.

Weather patterns have changed so much in recent years that unexpected rain, wind, and heat waves are becoming commonplace rather than surprises. People are saying they can remember when in a specific previous year they had experienced certain changes, but not for such a long period of time. Still, people are not getting the drift of what is happening.

Is it Global Warming? I am not a scientist so I can not say. However, there is something that is causing such unusual weather all over the world: tornadoes out of tornado season, higher magnitude of earthquakes where they weren't felt before, unseasonably hot/cold, and unseasonably wet/dry.

As The Great Shift continues towards it's end, these extremes will become even more extreme. Shifting air currents, shifting weather patterns, shifting physical earth changes, and shifting perceptions of these occurrences will take over more and more conversations. Perhaps it will be important to some people what the causes are. Some people won't care. Some just go with the flow and tolerate what we are hit with: good or bad. Personally, I just try to enjoy whatever weather comes my way, even the tornadoes. I am in a tornado alley.

There was a time when the blustery breezes of my area kept me from going outside. I just hated being blown off the porch. Then I realized what I was missing by not being in the nature I so love. I learned how to stand my ground. I learned how to walk. I learned how to listen. I learned how to feel.

Then the torrential rains made me head for the house. Again, my life was disrupted until I saw the disruption of those displaced by tornadoes, earthquakes, and other weather tragedies. I started to embrace the rain. I actually went out and got wet, even in a downpour. As the rain beat my body it felt as though I was being cleansed, both inside and out.

The heat would keep me from walking, the only exercise I attempted. Then I decided that it was keeping me from enjoying the sunshine and seeing the flowers. So I started to walk and pace myself. Maybe I didn't get the exercise I should have gotten. I did get the enjoyment of God's Earth, My Earth.

Yes, the weather is changing. Yes, some people see it as doom and gloom. I see it as a new way to appreciate what we have. I see it as learning experiences for all of us. Perhaps we are to change the way we live. Perhaps not. Again, it is all a matter of perception. For me, I look forward to the shifting of the earth. It tells me it is alive, therefore I am alive. It tells me that no matter what happens that life goes on. It will always go on no matter what I think or feel.

Life goes on. We must learn to deal with it. The Great Shift is just that: moving on. I'm moving on. Are you?